A
Single Mom
Source: The BBC, "Roulette Habit was Destroying
Me." May 23,2006
Sam is
a single mother with a problem.
It's a problem that has dominated her life for over
a decade.
She
is an addict, but she is not hooked on crack cocaine
or heroin. Her need, however, is equally
destructive.
She
is addicted to gambling.
Her
particular "drug of choice" is the casino - she
estimates she has placed a staggering £300,000 at
the mercy of the bouncing metal ball of a roulette
wheel.
"I
loved it, I adored it. It was everything to me," she
said.
"I
was playing at being rich, really. I'd dress up and
really believe I was this high roller. I'd win. Then
I'd lose. And I'd keep losing until there was
nothing left."
Her
troubles came to a head when she was caught stealing
from her high-paid job to feed her addiction.
She
was fired and faced a prison sentence.
'Black hole'
Then she was told about the Gordon House Association
- a charity that runs the only residential centre
specifically set up to try to help addicted
gamblers.
She
spent eight months there - eight months away from
her two young children.
She
talked about her experience in an interview for BBC
One's Six O'Clock News, in which she cried
throughout.
"It
was the only way," she said.
"I
really had no choice. I had fallen into a black
hole. It was the hardest thing I have ever done.
Leaving my children broke my heart. But I had to do
it. I had to do it - for them.
"My
gambling was destroying me."
Gordon House has only three beds for female gamblers
- at a secret "safe house" in the Midlands - but, it
seems, that number is woefully inadequate.
Last year GamCare, the UK's foremost charity for
helping gamblers, was contacted by 1,492 women
seeking help.
These are women they classify as being "in crisis" -
that is their gambling is effectively out of
control.
Faith Freestone is one of Sam's therapists, a
gambling expert with close links to the Gordon House
project.
She
is currently writing a report on what she describes
as "the explosion" in female gambling.
"The internet is making all the difference now," she
said.
"Traditionally, most women wouldn't be seen dead
inside a bookmaker's. But we are finding more and
more are happy to sit for hour after hour gambling
online. Often on credit cards, spending money they
may not even have."
The
charity set up the world's first online chat room
for problem gamblers - 220 women a month actively
seek counselling through this new service.
"It's still gambling and still potentially
destructive but it is hidden away," Faith said.
"Gambling has become so accessible and so de-stigmatised
that, unfortunately, it can only get worse. As more
people are exposed to gambling, more people will
become addicted."
Meanwhile, Sam is back with her family.
"It's a daily struggle. Sometimes I dream - I
fantasise - about the casino. But I have stopped
gambling," she said.
"I've stopped gambling for the sake of my children."
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