A Successful TV Anchor
Source: CBS News, "Women Addicted to Gambling.",
March 9 2006
With
the rise of on-line poker, compulsive gambling is
becoming an issue of national concern.
And
it's not just men who become addictions. The Early
Show national correspondent Hattie Kauffman found a
growing number of women are developing a gambling
habit, as well.
In
the 1980s, Melanie Morgan was a successful TV
anchor. But her gambling addiction cost her her job
and nearly destroyed her marriage.
"The reality is, the longer that you gamble
compulsively, which is what I was doing, the more
you become a compulsive liar," she said. "I would
lie about where I was going, what I was doing, who I
was with, how much money I was spending."
Even when she became pregnant, Morgan could not
break the habit in order to focus on her growing
family.
"I
was in a terrible environment, a smoke filled room,
hardly taking care of myself. I was gambling right
up until an hour before I gave birth," she said.
After her son was born, she would leave the infant
with an assortment of baby sitters, so she could go
back to the tables.
"I
remember packing up the baby one day," said her
husband, Jack, "driving around to each of the card
rooms where I thought she might be … finally
locating her, and taking the baby in its carrier and
putting the baby in the middle of the poker table."
At that point, he would confront his wife, "saying,
'You got a choice, you know, play cards, or do you
want to be a mom?' "
"I
knew at that point, I was in desperate trouble, and
I knew I was sick and needed help. And I still
didn't want to stop," Melanie recalled.
Kauffman says that people used to have to make a
trip to Las Vegas or Atlantic City to gamble
non-stop, but now the lure is everywhere. For
example, even in Phoenix, visitors are greeted with
the Arizona Gambler's Guide, listing 22 casinos,
horse racing, dog racing, bingo and more.
Kauffman met with three women, all in recovery from
compulsive gambling, to hear their stories. "I lost
$300,000," she was told by Vicki. "It was all of my
retirement money."
Shannon lost count of her losses, but knows they
were serious. "I had thought it was around $35,000,
but my husband stated it was closer to $50,000," she
said.
For
Fredia, the financial loss was enormous, but it was
just the beginning. Not only did she gamble away
between $150,000 and $200,000, she lost a year of
her life when she went to prison for stealing cash
to gamble.
"The sick, compulsive gambler will do whatever they
have to do to gamble," she told Kauffman. "It is an
addiction."
Psychologist Paul Good says it used to be that most
women gambled to escape their everyday lives. But,
now, more are simply lured by the action.
"A
sense of excitement, of being on the edge, that you
are literally holding your fate in your own hands at
a poker table," said Good. "For a woman, that can be
a very powerfully riveting experience."
According to the National Council on Problem
Gambling, twenty years ago, only a handful of those
seeking help for a gambling addiction were women.
Now, almost half are female.
"You are going to see gambling take its place
alongside alcoholism and drug abuse as being one of
the most significant addictions of our time,"
predicted Good.
The
women who seek treatment and attend a 12-step
program often manage to get their lives back.
Melanie Morgan has a broadcast career again and
hasn't gambled in 14 years, but she knows it's just
one day at a time.
"One bet, that's all it takes and I could instantly
be back in that place that I was before," she said.
All
of the women who shared their stories with Kauffman
said they were doing it to help others, remembering
a time when they thought they were alone with their
addictions. There is a number to call for help with
gambling problems: 1-800-GAMBLER. |